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The untold story behind Empower Dating – 9 Feb 2016

Posted on February 8th, 2016 in Empower Coaching

Empower Dating Origin

Empower Dating was an idea that was mulled over for a long time, way before Empower Advisory Pte Ltd was set up to fight scams through the offerings of investment bootcamps, realtor services, advisory and coaching.

10 years ago, I was curious to understand how dating operators worked. So I went with a friend to a “dating trip” to Malaysia where the highlight was a go-kart trip.

A 40 seater tour bus pulled up outside Novena MRT station at 7 in the morning and a good mix of males and females hopped on, led by the organizer, X.

Once on the bus, X made some small talk and introduced the itinerary. The males and females were then asked to pair themselves voluntarily in their seats. X instructed the females to sit next to the windows and the males to sit flanking the bus isle. This is because the males would have to circulate clockwise around the seats to make small talk to every female on the moving bus. Every female would stay put at their seat

It was definitely an awkward session for many. The conversation was predictable. What are you working as? How old are you? Is this your first dating excursion? For some, small talk turned to no talk. For others, recognizing friends on the same bus was a mini embarrassment. After a while, some seek refuge at the back of the bus and continued their banter with friends that they had tagged along with.

The first stop was a bak ku teh meal at a coffee-shop in Johor. It became apparent that the younger looking females were attracting more males to their table. It was yet another chance for a stab at conversation at a zoomed-in target after the earlier warm-up exercise. Some males however at this point had half given up, preferring to bond with their fellow males over soccer and work-talk.

The next stop was to a shopping centre where we could have a game or two of indoor archery. Everyone was left pretty much to mingle. X noticed a bunch of males pulling away from the herd and tried to get them back to participate in the friendly competition. They did, but their slouched shoulders betrayed how bored they were. The females were having more fun, probably because archery was new to them. Banter between the two sexes picked up. At this point, you can observe that the clique that formed at the coffee shop tables were consolidating at the archery session.

The final stop was at the go- kart track carved right into a palm plantation. The females graciously accepted the assistance of the males to slip on their safety helmet. Certainly the highlight of the whole trip, those males and females who had by now given up on finding a potential partner on this trip, took to the wheels, grinning with relish. I observed that it had been largely a futile trip for those who were there to seek a partner.

On the way back to Singapore, I managed to have a chat with X.

This was what he shared with me.

1) There are some repeat faces and they tend to be older. They come repeatedly for the same trip, hoping to find that special someone.

2) Those who are shy and awkward, continue to be shy and awkward

3) The females commonly feedback to him that the males generally appear aloof and pay more attention to the younger females

That made me think. How could it be done better? Was there something else that had been neglected for a quick buck.

Over the years, I have had first hand experience of the different dating platforms (online/offline) and counseled/coached many in the area of relationships. I have also flagged out many dating scams and often report against prostitution syndicates that have flooded online dating platforms.

I don’t agree with the rampant cross selling approach of some entities. Oh you need a make-over package. $1,000. Oh you probably need a session on etiquette. Another $500 please.  And that’s on top of paying for dating our fabulous disappointing members from our extensive  limited database.

Truth be told. You can find your own dates. You don’t need to sit through disappointing speed datings and approach dating like it’s a transaction.

You are seeking a meaningful relationship, aren’t you? Cause if you’re not, then Empower Dating is not for you. We don’t train you to be pick-up artistes or one-night-swingers.

We want you to be able to take rejections. We want you to be able to form respectful, meaningful friendships first. We want you to be the best version of yourself that you can give away. You deserve only to take as much as you give.

Ever since Empower Advisory started free life coaching, more rhan half of the requests are relationship related. This is not surprising since human connection gives meaning to what we do.

Empower Dating is thus an inevitable outcome.  The coaching is a fee based service but there is no manipulation, no cross selling, no nonsense, no opium laced hope. Being the best version of yourself as a gift to that special someone, is without doubt, the most priceless gift you can develop.

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An interesting exchange – shared by Empower Coaching – 14 Jun 2015

Posted on June 14th, 2015 in Empower Coaching

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Just ended a life coaching session with Mr X. I thought it was an interesting exchange worth sharing with readers of Empower Advisory’s Blog.

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X: Coach, I know this sounds silly, but till now, I haven’t found a real meaning or purpose to my existence. I step back, look at how things are gonna end and it just makes me feel down.”

Me: It’s not silly. We have no purpose when we came to existence. Our existence here is the result of our parents, whether they intended or not. I can’t remember myself insisting to be born rightaway to do something.

X: (Laughs) That’s true. I don’t remember threatening my parents, “Give birth to me quick. I’ve got something very important I have to do!”

Me: Our purpose and meaning is shaped by our experience from birth and what makes us happy or what we think makes us happy.

X: What do you mean? Between the two different kind of happiness?

Me: One type of happiness is what innately makes you happy without being told. The other one is what society seems to tell you what you need to be happy. Like being gorgeous. Drive fancy cars. Having your own family. That kind of things. You’re not alone. Many people drift through life not quite knowing what they are here for. Some turn to religion. Some turn to other stuff.

X: Yes, yes…

Me: The key is identifying what makes you innately happy and go for it, while being practical about it. Life is about being happy. Of course there are bread and butter issues. Bills to pay. Installments to keep up. Part of the package.

Our lives are limited. So if you have been happy most of the time, you’ll be glad that you had that time in the sun. If you’ve have not been that way, then you’ll be glad that when your time’s up, you’re released from your never-ending misery. So you can say life is fair.

X: But isn’t it sad that after being happy, it all ends eventually?

Me: Ah, you want immortality.

X: Yes, in a way. Don’t we all?

Me: And what would you do with immortality? Do everything possible you can think of. You know what happens that way right? You’ll probably not do most of the things on your list, since you can always do it next time. There’s no urgency.

X: (Laughs) True, true.

Me: Don’t think of death as the be all and end all. What comes after, nobody quite knows. Many have gone before you. And many more will go after you. It’s a horrifying idea to some but it’s strange the same people don’t feel that way when they shut their eyes to sleep every night. What makes them so sure they will wake up the next day?

X: So you’ll think there’s life after death?

Me: I don’t know. That’s my honest answer. But I sure want to be happy in this lifetime then work at it after death just in case there’s no such world after death to pursue happiness. Living a happy life in this lifetime is the best insurance against finding out that there is no such chance after death.

X: Thanks Coach. I like the insurance analogy. I’ll come up with a list of what innately makes me happy and practical ways to go about it and we can discuss further…

Douglas

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My First Encounter with HIV – 28 Feb 2015

Posted on February 28th, 2015 in Empower Coaching

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I saw the above advertisement and recollected a past coaching session.

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I didn’t know what to expect.

Lady B, was well groomed. Her hair was neatly pulled back and there was a hint of lipstick from the day before.

She took in two breaths, the second, longer than the first. Then she spoke.

“I don’t know why I approached you from the website. You’re a stranger but it seems better this way.”

I nodded.

“I have a fear of dying. Earlier than I should.”

I nodded again.

“I have HIV. It’s under control. Some days I don’t even think I have it. I fear it’s not what will kill me. But the worry. And don’t start me on Magic Johnson.”

It’s always good to have a client with humour.

“How old are you,” I queried.

“42, no smoking, vices, whatsoever. The only fault is HIV. A gift from my husband. Ex husband.

“You have kids, I guess.”

“Yes, and they’re my biggest worry.  I’m financially ok, so it’s not about the money.”

It so happened that I had my Straits Times with me and I had scanned through it while waiting for her. I flipped to the obituary section and spread the pages for her to see.

“How many departed do you see here, younger than yourself?”

She counted four. And a smile returned to her face.

I edged forward. “I’m not sure if they had HIV but they didn’t know better. No one knows how and when they will go. You read all the time about fitness buffs who collapse and die unexpectedly. You read about traffic accidents that kill toddlers and children. You know about people struck down by cancer when they’re in their prime. They didn’t know better too. But they probably lived their life, like it goes on forever.”

“So you’re saying I shouldn’t think about my HIV?”

“No, that’s not what I meant. Can you not think about the elephant in the room?”

“You can’t.”

“Exactly. You look like you have it under control. It’s not an early death sentence these days with modern treatment. Stick to it and you have a good chance to have a normal life span and watch your kids grow up.”

“You know, friends have told me lots of similar stuff. But it didn’t quite sink in until you showed me the obituaries. I have already outlived people who probably don’t have HIV. And they have more unfinished  business than I do. They probably lived life thinking they would hit 70 or 80.”

I nodded and concluded, “HIV is not a death sentence. We all have our unique death sentences anyway. No one escapes. So don’t think about the end. It will come. Think about what you can and want to do.”

I saw the tension in her face fade.

“I like the way you didn’t flinch when I said I had HIV,” she smiled and took her first sip from her takeaway cup of tea.

The rest of the session fell in place, relaxed and ended on time. In life-coaching, judgement is suspended and the focus is on solutioning and re-framing. Every assignment is unique and a challenge. One needs to be able to empathise without sympathy. Maintain a position without being judgemental. Be a cheerleader and yet draw a line.

I had hesitated to do life-coaching as it meant giving up some of my personal time. But I’m glad I took that step.. It makes me a better person and puts my own values and beliefs to the test.  As long as I restrict the number of clients, I can still strike a balance in my own personal life.

My Best!

Douglas

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Could I have saved Ahn Sojin? – 27 Feb 2015

Posted on February 26th, 2015 in Empower Coaching

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I don’t know her. Never read about her. Never watched her sing and dance.

But something about Ahn Sojin’s untimely death forced a huge sigh out of me. In a country obsessed with plastic surgery and leggy teen pop stars, Sojin was one of many starry-eye Korean teenagers, hoping to be a K-pop idol and bask in the adoration from millions.

Never mind that the Korean pop industry cranks out K-pop girl bands with ruthless efficiency, keeping members strictly in line and replacing individuals when their popularity dipped or threatened the band’s popularity with their ‘unauthorized” love life and other distractions. The companies that operate such girl bands know that since their replacements looked similar anyway, disgruntled fans will soon warm to them.

22 years old Sojin lived and breathed, wanting to be K-pop idol. She had said that participating in the Kara Project (a reality TV show to find a new member for K-pop girl group Kara ) was her last shot at becoming a pop star, as she was considered overaged, by youth obsessed K-pop girl band standards.

She had been trying for a long time to break into the K-pop scene since signing on 5 years ago as a trainee with artiste management company, DSP media, going for vigorous singing and dancing lessons. Alas, she lost in the finals to Heo Youngji, 20, who became Kara’s newest member. A heavier blow came 6 months later, when her trainee contract with DSP media was terminated. Did they consider her a lost cause? An investment down the drain?

Depressed, Sojin leapt to her death from the 10th floor of her apartment on the 24th Feb 2015.

Could there have been a Plan B she could look forward to? Was an all or nothing approach to life the way to push oneself?

I wish I had the chance to speak to Sojin when she was down in the rut, disillusioned at how her efforts had come to naught. I wish I could have coached her to chart a Plan B, where her talents could be put to satisfactory use. I wished she could have paused at the ledge and thought of all the wonderful possibilities she could apply herself to, beyond being a Kara member.

If you know someone who feels down, be generous with your encouragement and nudge them to see Plan B. The darkness before dawn is darkest but with your encouragement and positivity, you can help that someone save himself/herself long enough for that second go at life.  And third.  And fourth. As many as there are infinite possibilities.

My Best!

Douglas

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Charlotte’s last Blog Post – Shared by Empower Coaching – 19 Sep 2014

Posted on September 19th, 2014 in Empower Coaching

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Charlotte has blogged on The Huffington Post UK since 2013 and sadly passed away on Tuesday 16 September from bowel cancer. She wrote one final post that she wished to share with all of her readers. We are moved to reproduce it from The Huffington and highlight the salient parts. This last blog post by Charlotte give us pause to reflect on what’s important to us and figure out how to get there.

 

1) I’ve always been a good planner. I like lists and tick sheets, to-do notes and objectives. I’m very good at starting things, but honestly, I am also easily bored and quickly lose interest once the original excitement passes.

2) I haven’t had the luxury of being allowed to be bored of having cancer. It isn’t something you can just give up if you don’t fancy doing it that day. There isn’t a switch you can chose to turn off one day from the next. At least not for me. From my first day as a cancer patient, I have attended every test, scan and appointment. I have tried every treatment offered, from the standard medical therapies, to eating oiled cottage cheese, having acupuncture and juicing kale. Cancer has become our life. Holidays, haircuts and helicopter lessons have all been timed around good or bad chemo weekends. Danny and Lu, unwittingly as innocent by-standers have had their childhoods protected but also dictated by my various regimes. This is all they have ever known and, I hope, have still managed to turn out to be pretty good, well-rounded, loved and treasured children.

3) The innocence that we have protected them from has now had to be revealed. Following my birthday, I started to feel ‘unwell’. We ‘popped’ to hospital where the usual set of tests were carried out. Unfortunately, when combined with a recent scan, the results were nothing short of devastating. We were no longer looking at a month by month action plan with a couple of months buffer at the end. I was given days, perhaps a couple of weeks to live. I wasn’t expected to leave the hospital, but somehow, have managed to pull it out of the bag at the last moment and return home, to spend what little time I have with my darling children and loving husband.

4) As I write this, I am sat on the sofa, relatively pain-free and busy doing my little projects, sorting out the funeral and selling my car. We wake up every morning, grateful I can have a cuddle and kiss my babies.

5) As you read this, I will no longer be here. Rich will be trying to put one foot in front of the other, to get by, a day at a time, knowing I will no longer awake next to him. He will see me in the luxury of a dream, but in the harsh morning sun, the bed will be empty. He will get two cups from the cupboard, but realise there is only one coffee to make. Lucy will need someone to reach for her hairband box, but there won’t be anyone to plait her hair. Danny will have lost one of his Lego policeman, but no one will know exactly which one it is or where to look. You will look for the latest update on the blog. There won’t be one, this is the final chapter.

6) And so I leave a gaping, unjust, cruel and pointless hole, not just in Halliford Road, but in all the homes, thoughts and memories of other loved ones, friends and families. For that I am sorry. I would love to still be with you, laughing, eating my weird and latest miracle food, chatting rubbish ‘Charleyisms’. I have so much life I still want to live, but know I won’t have that. I want to be there for my friends as they move with their lives, see my children grow up and become old and grumpy with Rich. All these things are to be denied of me.

7) But, they are not to be denied of you. So, in my absence, please, please, enjoy life. Take it by both hands, grab it, shake it and believe in every second of it. Adore your children. You have literally no idea how blessed you are to shout at them in the morning to hurry up and clean their teeth.

8) Embrace your loved one and if they cannot embrace you back, find someone who will. Everyone deserves to love and be loved in return. Don’t settle for less. Find a job you enjoy, but don’t become a slave to it. You will not have ‘I wish I’d worked more’ on your headstone. Dance, laugh and eat with your friends. True, honest, strong friendships are an utter blessing and a choice we get to make, rather than have to share a loyalty with because there happens to be link through blood. Choose wisely then treasure them with all the love you can muster. Surround yourself with beautiful things. Life has a lot of grey and sadness – look for that rainbow and frame it. There is beauty in everything, sometimes you just have to look a little harder to see it.

9) So, that’s it from me. Thank you so much for the love and kindness you’ve shown in your own little ways over the last 36 years. From the mean girls in the playing fields who pushed me into the stinging nettles aged six to the bereaved husbands who in the last week have told me what their wives did to help prepare their young children and everyone in between. They and you have all, in some small way helped me become the person I have been.

10) Please, now use that love for me and pass it to Rich, my children, family and close friends. And when you close your curtains tonight, look out for a star, it will be me, looking down, sipping a pina colada, enjoying a box of (very expensive) chocolates.

Good night, Good bye and God bless.

Charley xx

 

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2 Life Lessons from U2, the World’s Biggest Band – 25 Mar 2014

Posted on March 24th, 2014 in Empower Coaching

 

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1) Who is the biggest band in the world?  Without doubt, it’s U2, the Irish pop-rock band formed in 1976.

2) U2 has sold more than 150 million records and recently set a world record for grossing over US700 million in its most recent global live concert tour that lasted 2 years and sold 7.2 million tickets.

3) Far from exploiting raging hormones like pretty boy and gal pop bands that bare more skin than actually sing and play their instruments, U2 sticks to its working class roots and perform live, playing their instruments and sing songs of life’s roller coaster ride, social issues, democracy, hope, redemption, freedom and love.

4) [Lesson 1 – Find work that you love and care about so you will put in the crazy effort required] Yet, despite its phenomenal success, this band does not take it easy, content to just churn out endless “best of” concerts to pay their bills.  This is a band that enjoys what it does and because it does, is always thinking how to write new, relevant songs and put up fantastic live concerts to reward its fans.  Bono, lead singer of U2 puts it straightly when recently questioned about the delay of U2’s 13th album.  He said, ”I think if we don’t come up with a very good reason to make a new album we should just f**k off.”

5) This is a band that is not afraid to push boundaries and its recently concluded world tour is testimony of that unceasing determination. [Lesson 2 – Collaboration and working in a good supportive team makes you so much better]  The video below will give you an insight of the massive work behind every show in their 360 world tour, the financial risk they took and the phenomenal engineering expertise, talent and collaboration that made each show possible.  A lot of time, we celebrate the performers but forget the effort of the crew working hard behind the scenes to make it all happen.

6) For readers new to U2, do watch them on YouTube and be wowed by the incredible talent of the boys, (now uncles) from Dublin which we have the privilege to witness and grow up with.  Like U2, all of us can craft our own legacy and make a positive impact in our own little way!

 

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You are MORE than what your Job defines – 19 Feb 2014

Posted on February 19th, 2014 in Empower Coaching, Food for thought

 

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Tragically, a young 33 year old JP Morgan junior investment banker jumped to his death on 18 Feb 2014  from the top of Charter House in Central Hong Kong, where JP Morgan has its Asia headquarters

A smashed iPhone and Blackberry phone was found beside his lifeless body.  According to sources, the Hong Kong Chinese native had confided in his colleagues that he was facing tremendous stress at work.  Other sources pointed that he had received news that he was facing the sack.  Security tried in vain to stop him from jumping 30 storeys to his death.

Nobody should have to face such an untimely demise due to work related stress.  Remember, that you are defined by more than your job.  A job ultimately compensates you for the time and effort you exchange to make profits for the company.  To put it bluntly, a job pays you a wholesale rate while your employer charges the ultimate clients a retail rate.  That’s all there is to it.

Don’t let work stress rob you of your life.  See a counselor or quit your job if necessary.  Take a step back to evaluate if the current job is really for you.  The litmus test is this.  If you find yourself relishing the challenges of your job and actively seek solutions, then all is good.  But if you don’t, you might simply be in the wrong job, that’s all.  There’s no shame in walking away.  Just like you can’t get an Olympic swimmer to challenge for top honors in a 100m land race, you can’t perform if you’re not in the right job and environment that plays to your strength.  Do you think Michael Phelps, the American champion swimmer and the most decorated Olympian of all time can ever beat the fastest man alive,  Usain Bolt in a 100 meter dash?  Likewise, do you think Usain Bolt can ever outswim Micheal Phelps?

Your life is limited.  Your work is not.  All of us are dispensable.  See how Apple continues to shine with the departure of Steve Jobs?  We wish that all friends of Empower Advisory find a fulfilling, satisfying vocation!

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Overcoming Self Doubts and Fear – 8 Feb 2014

Posted on February 7th, 2014 in Empower Coaching

 

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Fear and self-doubt comes in all forms.  If you have ever discouraged yourself from doing what you had planned, you’ll probably know what we mean.

The typical way to magnify self-doubts and fear would be telling yourself “You can’t do it,” “Don’t be stupid”, “What if it goes wrong?”, “What if you mess up?”  The list of self bashing questions goes on and on. 

But hey, you have a choice.  You can either cave in to the negative self talk or work on how to acquire the skills and knowledge to move forward.

Shift your focus of self-bashing to the magic word “How”. Try asking yourself instead “How can I do it”, “How can I not be stupid”, “How can I ensure it does not go wrong?”, “How can I not mess up?”

You’ll be pleasantly surprised how this simple twist can spur your inner well of creativity to think up solutions to move forward. Give it a go!   Break free from your self doubts and imaginary fears today!

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Goal Setting (Don’t Set Out To Fail) – 6 Feb 2014

Posted on February 6th, 2014 in Empower Coaching

 

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Poor goal setting is the reason many people fail to achieve the change they want to see in their lives.  Many a times, the goals people set for themselves are fuzzy with no specific details and action plan.  It’s almost as if they lack the confidence to go down to the nuts and bolts of the plan or just want to soak in the feel good warmth of their imagined success. Make your goals a reality by applying the wise principles of S.M.A.R.T goal setting.

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S.M.A.R.T is an acronym for the 5 steps of Specific, Measurable, Appealing, Realistic and Timed.

S-pecific – What do you really, really want to achieve?

M-easurable – How will you measure your progress?

A-ppealing – How magnetic is your goal?

R-ealistic – How realistic is your goal?

T-imed – When do you want to achieve your goal?

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S-pecific: “I want to set aside at least 1 hr of free time for my children” is more meaningful to grasp then “I want to spend more time with my children”.  A more specific goal, allows you to better focus your energy and mobilize your resources to make it happen.

M-easurable: A goal without a measurable outcome is like a movie that goes on and on.  You just won’t know where the finale is and if the loose ends of the plot is finally tied. Don’t create unnecessary uncertainties for yourself.  A measurable target is a reminder to keep yourself focused on the results you want to attain.  Using the above example, if 1 hr is your target, you’ll know in an instant if you have met your goal.

A-ppealing: How inspiring is the goal to you? The goal must be magnetic enough to make you persevere through the challenges that will come your way.

R-ealistic: Yes by all means dream big but do keep one foot based in reality.  A goal that is unattainable and far-fetched will have you waving the white flag soon after you have hatched your goal.  You don’t just snap your fingers and say, “I’m gonna create the next Facebook tomorrow.” Facebook, for all its success is not an overnight miracle that came out of an ah-ha moment. Its main founder Mark Zukerberg started learning programming as a kid and had private programming tuition from software developer David Newman. This laid the foundation to the culmination of events that eventually led to the creation of Facebook more than a decade later.

T-imed: Goals don’t get done when you operate on a rubber timeline.  A time frame allows you to monitor your progress and make adjustments along the way to hit your target.  For example, knowing that you’re going to be late for work naturally spurs you into action to think of alternatives and faster ways to reach your office.  Without knowing the cut off time for your targets, you’ll be drifting along and soon lose sight of your goals.

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What does your job mean to you? – 2 Feb 2014

Posted on February 2nd, 2014 in Empower Coaching

 

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Think about this. About why you were hired.

You were NOT hired to do a job. You were hired to SOLVE problems. That’s all there is to a job.  (Let’s leave the Wall Street greed mantra at the door for a moment).

All jobs are created to solve problems. At NTUC Fair Price, cashiers key in/scan the prices for you so you don’t make a mistake, deliberate or not. They load up the groceries in plastic bags for you so you don’t overload the bag, which might cause the bag to burst; you don’t underfill them or help yourself to extra bags and you don’t slow down the line while you load the groceries with your idiosyncrasies.

So the cashiers were hired to solve all these problems. Cashiers who see their job as repetitive and routine will waste no time to bail out. Cashiers who can see themselves as problems solvers will be easier persuaded by management to stay.  How does this relate to you?

When you work for a company or organisation, chances are that you find yourself at times slipping into DOING a job, and see your work as just a series of task without a meaningful purpose.  To re-discover the purpose of your job, think about why you were hired and if that purpose still resonate in you.  If it still does, it would be easier for you to be motivated to overcome the challenges you face at work.  If it does not, or your organisation is filled with superiors or colleagues who do not appreciate your work and support you to achieve the meaningful purpose that drew you into your job in the first place, it is a good signal that it’s probably time to move on.

You are most happy and driven when your needs (food, shelter, money etc), abilities (skills, knowledge etc) and purpose (to serve, leave a legacy etc) come together in your chosen choice of employment.  Finding that purpose is not the icing to the cake.  That purpose is the rocket fuel that makes you alive each day, driving you to think of ways to overcome the challenges you face in your job.

Find it. Breathe it. Live it.

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